Open door
Oh, I forgot to mention, I went out to dinner with B (a girl who I met on my tahoe trip) about a month ago. We talked for a few hours over dinner, and we continue to talk to each other over IM & on the phone. B's a sweet gal, and we have a few things in common. Funny thing is, on our car ride from Tahoe, I mentioned if she had anything planned over the summer, and she went on this big thing on how she's not ready on a relationship, she needs to concentrate on work, her works takes her to who knows where every few months, etc. Funny thing is I asked that question as a segway to talk about my 24 Hours of Lemons car race I'm planning on running. She thought I was asking her out over the summer or something. I didn't want to embarrass her by mentioning that all I asked if she had anything interesting like a vacation or something planned over the summer. I decided to play it off and tell her she's way over analyzing things right now.
A couple of weeks ago, I went out to dinner with B and my friend Will (Whom I had recently told I went out to dinner with B), and all throughout dinner, Will grilled B on everything from "What do you look for in a man", to hypothetical questions "Who would you rather go out with, someone with looks, or someone with money". Ya know, all the ones that'll make you sweat. B now changed her tune, saying she's ready for other things in her life besides work. She also had said that she's old fashioned and wants the guy to make the first move (ask her out).
That was just a small sampling over many subjects, with alot of information, more than I really wanted to know.
I've got an open door, but I'm hesitating. Not sure why right now.
7 comments:
Maybe B used the whole "I don't have time for a relationship" so you wouldn't hit on her on the way to and from Tahoe, and once she got to know you she developed a crush and now is stuck and is trying to give you hits. Hmm... so does this mean you like her? If you do ask her out you HAVE to blog about it!!!
...or maybe she likes Will? Or maybe she expected you to make your move back when she presumed you were interested, only you never made a move so now she's miffed and she's hinting at you to do something. Women are fickle, ya know? I'm glad I'm not dating one. Haha. Good luck.
Hmm, we went to dinner together, alone. Doesn't that count as a date? I even picked up the bill!
I thought in the 2nd paragraph you were saying you and B and Will went out to dinner together and he grilled her on relationship questions?
Well, going to dinner 1 on 1 isn't necessarily a date, even if 1 party picks up the bill, but if there's mutual interest on the table, then it's a date. Or even interest on 1 party's side and the other's acknowledgment of that interest, in some situations.
My first thought was right along with what Cindy first said. If her tune changed then it seems like she was telling Will that she was looking for a relationship. But that's my first thought- don't quote me later!
Of course women can be fickle and tricky to understand. Bring up the topic again next time you are alone with "B" if you really want to know what she really wants. If her tune goes back to, "I'm not ready!" then forget it. If it's still "Make the first move already!" then it was meant for you in the first place. Also pay attention to pauses and the sense that she doesn't really want to say something. If you get the desired response, but it is after she has hesitated and lost eye contact then it's not really the actual desired response.
I always feel sorry for straight guys- women are tough to understand and deal with. That's why I stay with the male friends. I can't understand my own gender!
For the record, I think Dani is a genius. Yeah, if you bring it up with B again when you're alone and see if her answer changed or if her body language gives anything away, it'd give you all the answers as to who she's interested in!
Will and B are just friends, they've known each other for a long time (10 years or more). Will was probing her for my benefit. And she definitely likes me, I already know that.
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